10 polite ways to say ‘no’ and protect your boundaries

Saying ‘no’ and setting boundaries is an important part of maintaining healthy relationships and protecting your own well-being.

However, saying “no” can be difficult, especially when we want to please others or avoid conflict.

Learning how to say “no” in a polite and respectful way can help you establish clear boundaries, while still maintaining positive relationships with those around you.

In this piece, we explore 10 different polite ways to say “no” in various areas of life, from work to home to social situations, to help you protect your own boundaries and prioritise your needs.

By learning to say “no” in a respectful way, you can communicate your limits and maintain your own emotional and physical health.

You might also find helpful our guide on setting and maintaining healthy boundaries.

1. “No, thank you” – This is a simple and polite way to say no in any situation, whether it’s at work, home, or with friends.
2. “I’m sorry, but I won’t be able to make it” – This is a polite way to decline an invitation or request, while also expressing regret.
3. “I appreciate the offer, but I can’t right now” – This is a good way to say no without being dismissive or rude, especially when it comes to work or professional requests.
4. “I’m not comfortable with that, but I appreciate you asking” – This is a good way to say no when someone asks you to do something that you’re not comfortable with.
5. “I’m sorry, I’m already committed to something else” – This is a good way to say no to an invitation or request, without giving a specific reason.
6. “I don’t think I’m the right person for that, but thank you for considering me” – This is a good way to say no to a request that you don’t feel qualified for, while still expressing appreciation for being asked.
7. “I’m sorry, but I’m going to have to pass on that” – This is a polite way to decline an invitation or request, without going into detail.
8. “I’m flattered, but I’m not interested” – This is a polite way to say no when someone asks you out or expresses interest in you romantically.
9. “I’m sorry, I can’t take on any more right now” – This is a good way to say no to a work request or project, without overcommitting.
10. “I appreciate your help, but I think I’ll handle this on my own” – This is a good way to say no to someone who is offering to help, while still expressing gratitude.

For more on this topic, check out Psychology Today’s piece on “How and why to say no”.