fbpx

Discovering your attachment style

Attachment theory has identified three modes of attachment people display in relationships - anxious, secure, and avoidant. Which one are you?

The psychology field of attachment theory has identified three modes of attachment people display in relationships – anxious, secure, and avoidant.

Learn how your Story of My Life Journal is designed to support you in becoming who you choose to be – including in your relationships.

About the quiz

This questionnaire is designed to help you identify which style you are, which then helps you better manage yourself and others in relationships.

You will be provided with a breakdown of your style tendencies after completing the questionnaire, which will enable you to see which style you default to in your relationships.

Attachment styles

Anxious

People with anxious attachment are usually needy. They are anxious and have low self-esteem. They want to be close with others but are afraid that people don’t want to be with them.

As a child, your parents probably were inconsistent. They might have responded sometimes. Other times, they might have been distracted or just not there. You might have felt anxious and unsure and felt like your parents were all over the place.

Secure

People with a secure attachment style have empathy but can set boundaries. They are satisfied in their close relationships and feel safe and stable.

As a child, your parents were probably good at responding to your needs and managing their own stress in healthy ways.

People who have secure relationships:

  • Have a good sense of self-worth
  • Openly express feelings
  • Easily ask for and give support
  • Like being with others but don’t get anxious if they are not

Avoidant

Your parents were probably unavailable as a child. They might have rejected your needs or emotions, and you learned to withdraw and soothe yourself. You learned to avoid closeness or maybe never knew what it felt like and now avoid it all together.

You can read more about the attachment styles in this article from Insider.

Instructions

Make your way through the following questions, checking the box next to only those that you relate to.

This quiz is taken from the book by Amir Levine and Hel Levine.

[qsm quiz=5]

CURRENT SOML CUSTOMER RATING:

5/5

From your weekly companion, to your daily support tool – SOML has you covered.

Share:

Related Posts